The Peacemaker - Ken Sande
I came across this in a book that I am reading for one of my counseling classes this semester. The book is focused on resolving personal conflict with a biblical model, but there is just so much tied up within conflict that several chapters have been spent on many different aspects of conflict.
The above quote is speaking of idols, several times in the chapter Sande challenges the reader to do a quick self-analysis. I am a checklist reader and push hard for the next chapter and tend to skim anything that involves “reader engagement”. When I hit this paragraph though I felt extreme conviction and knew exactly what my idols are. My expectations have completely become conditions and standards that I place on others such as, time management, study habits, topics of conversation, social media, etc. If I encounter someone who does not “give allegiance” to my idols I am so quick to condemn them and this often leads to a conflict that I create in my own heart.
What kind of expectations are you allowing to become conditions and standards used judge those around you?